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Last Updated on September 11, 2019 by Samantha Flores
Recently, a friend of mine lost a loved one; someone who was very near and dear to her heart. Her father. And while her heart broke into countless pieces, I’ve watched her hold steady to her commitment of being a good mother.
When I heard the news of her father’s passing, my heart hurt for her and her family. I’ve known her for over a decade. We went to high school together, had sleepovers, played basketball, and got ready for prom together. It’s safe to say that I know her family very well. We graduated in the same class and I’ve been fortunate to still have a friendship with her.
Throughout the years, we went separate ways starting our lives and having children. We took on the motherhood role and of all the roles we’ve had together throughout the years, motherhood by far is the one that connects us the most.
A grieving mother is not like anyone else. She still holds down the fort in strength of her family. She is strong for all those around her and doesn’t show her pain. Furthermore, she is exhausted, but she continues to be someone everyone can count on.
While this isn’t a typical post that is normally shown on blogs, I wanted to take the time to acknowledge the grieving mother who needs to know she is not alone. Pursuant to all the drastic changes that have happened in the blink of an eye, she still finds a way to make her children smile.
A letter to my grieving mama friend;
The day I learned of your father’s passing, my heart hurt for you. It hurt because I knew how much your father meant to you and your family. It hurt because I knew how much your children would miss him. And it hurt because I knew how much would be asked of you to grieve your father’s passing while also being the loving mother that your are.
While life seemed to go on for the rest of the world, you spent your days helping you own mother and siblings accept this tremendous loss. You spoke at his funeral with words that would forever ring in everyone’s heart about how much he meant to you and your family. Then, you turned around and gave you daughter a great birthday celebration a week later. You never let her see how much you were hurting while celebrating without your father being there. Your resilience is astonishing.
I’ve seen you in hard times before through the high school crushes and broken hearts. There wasn’t much I could do for you back then other than tell you you deserved better. Now, I’m even more at a loss for how to help you.
As a mom, I look to you for inspiration on how to cope in such a challenging time in life while still being a mom and providing for the lives we brought into this world.
I want you to know that you aren’t alone. When you have to be the strong one for everyone else, you are the epitome of love. You are strong and you can do this! The pain of your father being gone from this world doesn’t go away. But the way you choose to remember him and be there for your family is one of the greatest ways you could ever honor him.
With much love and sympathy,
A mama friend who sees your sacrifice <3
Elizabeth O
September 16, 2019 at 7:27 amIt’s hard to lose someone who is dear to you. I have seen friends who have lost theirs. Glad that she has a friend in you who is always there to support her emotionally.
D'ondra Howard
September 15, 2019 at 1:29 pmGrief is something we all tend to experience, I wish it wasn’t, but we know we have to go through at some point. Hopefully she finds comfort when she needs it.
Mila R
September 15, 2019 at 3:55 amWhat a beautiful post. It makes me tear…
arun
September 15, 2019 at 6:38 pmIt is so hard to loose someone you love. Lots of love and positive vibes for the family.
Adventures with Shelby
September 16, 2019 at 1:40 amThis was a beautiful post
sincerelymissj
September 15, 2019 at 2:39 amThe passing of any loved one is so difficult. I hope your friend is coping okay. Beautiful and encouraging post.
arun
September 15, 2019 at 6:36 pmIt is always hard to loose someone you love. To miss a part of your life. Hugs and lots of positive vibes for the family.
Paige
September 13, 2019 at 9:50 pmSuch a beautiful tribute… your friend is lucky to have you!
serenarogers19
September 13, 2019 at 7:31 pmBeautiful letter to your friend. Made me tearful. Thank you for sharing.
aisasami
September 13, 2019 at 5:13 pmWhat a touching letter for those are grieving. Hoping these beautiful words brings healing!
Mike A.
September 13, 2019 at 4:04 pmBeautiful words. Hopefully this post will provide some help and comfort to your friend through her difficult time.
Joanna
September 13, 2019 at 12:01 pmIt is always heartbreaking to lose a dear one and the grief that interfere in anyone’s daily life. I can imagine it’s even worse when you are a mother and you need to continue to support your family through the grievieng.
Sadia Munir
September 13, 2019 at 7:21 amIt’s hard to imagine what she’s going through! God Bless!
Ruth
September 12, 2019 at 11:53 amI can’t even imagine going through what your friend is. It’s so heartbreaking to read about. Your letter to her is so lovely and encouraging. She’s so lucky to have such wonderful support 🙂
Ruth
September 12, 2019 at 11:51 amStories like this are always so heartbreaking. I honestly can’t even imagine going through what your friend has. Your letter to her was so lovely and encouraging, she’s lucky to have such wonderful support 🙂
ellypaunoska
September 12, 2019 at 11:12 amIT MAKES ME TEARS IN MY EYES THANK YOU .
floridforest
September 12, 2019 at 4:15 amWhat a beautiful post. Thank you for honoring your friend in this way.
ukeveryday
September 12, 2019 at 6:55 pmSuch a beautiful post.
Cindy B
September 11, 2019 at 8:57 pmHow heartbreaking. Loved reading the words of encouragement!